To New Beginnings

To New Beginnings

So I know I don’t use this blog regularly, to a point where I should know better. But I get caught up in this crazy thing called life. And rather than spend hours and hours on social media (which I do enough of) and post something just to watch the numbers rise or fall, to see how liked or viral a picture goes: I’m too busy living this beautiful life.
Which is exactly what I have done.

 

I married my best friend and soul mate on October 7th, 2016. I had the best weekend of my life, and can safely say I am a very blessed and fortunate individual to receive the unconditional love of a trustworthy and kind man. Someone who I have been with for a long time, and never imagined my life without. I know our story isn’t like many others, and that some women with Alopecia state they cant find love.

Here’s a small response to that: if the men you’re dating don’t accept you for who you are, you are dating the wrong men. You are looking in the wrong places. Men who can love, accept and appreciate who you are exist. I can attest to it. Don’t assume it’s your flaws that are the problem: it’s their shallow, insensitive and immature personalities that are the problem. Too many men think they’re entitled to be with what the media portrays as a perfect woman. The stereotypical model with nothing but time on their hands and him on their mind. Let me fill you in on a secret: that woman does not exist. So stop comparing yourself to an idea, something that has been a figment of men’s imaginations for years. Men that turn you down because you have hair loss never deserved you in the first place.

Don’t turn into someone else, for someone else. If you love yourself, you’ll find you need don’t need anyone else’s approval and can continue living the life you love to live.

 

I want our story to inspire others. I want women with Alopecia to feel that they too, can have the love of a lifetime and not feel insecure about their looks. Love yourself and love will find you.  Getting married has given me such an appreciation of depth of love we share, as well as expand my perspective about who we surround ourselves with.

Having toxic people in your life, leads to toxic thoughts and lifestyles. Don’t let other people’s thoughts or actions influence who you are. Find people that enhance your personality. Your quirks. Your sense of humor. Find people that appreciate your uniqueness. Don’t let someone else’s negativity cast a shadow over your ray of sunlight.

I Don’t Want a Cure for Alopecia

Now I understand this may be a little controversial, but I want to explain WHY. Why I believe money is better spent focused on curing ourselves of depression, anxiety, self-hate, low-self esteem, apprehension, and everything else that stops us from living our best lives.

 

A cure gives us hope. Not to say there’s no hope when it comes to Alopecia, but I believe it’s false hope. It’s like the light at the end of the tunnel: it’s always there, but when will you reach the end? We don’t know if there’s a cure for Alopecia coming this lifetime, or the next. Yes- it’s important we spend money on researching autoimmune diseases. Yes- we should definitely support the opportunities to find a cure.

But how does any of that help us right now? How does spending $50 of our hard-earned money help me right now? It doesn’t. Granted, it’s an investment into your future and blah blah blah, things that I can’t argue. You’re not wrong for wanting to donate cash to find answers for alopecia. I can’t fault anyone for wanting something better for civilization it’s something everyone should absolutely 100% do.

My argument lies here: how can we help ourselves right now? How can we better our lives right now? How does the possibility of a cure for Alopecia and the promise of growing our hair back help me right now?

We spend so much time, money and effort on trying to fix the future just right so that when we get there, we might be comfortable. But no one is focusing on how we’re feeling right now- and we’re ignoring signs that maybe, we should spend a little time on ourselves. People forget to take care of their bodies and minds, and to treat them with a little respect!

So here’s a little snippet of my thoughts:

 

Comment, share, or let me know what you think!

Why I Don’t Suffer from Alopecia

Why I Don’t Suffer from Alopecia

When I created this video, a headline captured my attention and actually frustrated me. It triggered my mind about a lot of things, and how the headline is used for sympathy on a variety of issues.

To gain readers, more dramatic titles and headlines are given to peak their interest. Grabbing them by sympathy, people feel compelled to feel bad for the subject of the story. Now, this is just how some journalism can go. I just hate being lumped into a misconception… I DO NOT SUFFER!

& I’m not alone in that category. Many women who have broken free from the wig feel better than they did before. It’s a very liberating experience and I welcome anyone to try it. Would I wish Alopecia on anyone? Of course not… but to free yourself of the beauty expectations by choice, that’s rewarding.

I encourage you to watch this video and think about what labels are in your life, and if there’s something you’d like to change.

Our Deepest Fear

“It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us
 
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
 
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
 
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?
 
Actually, who are you not to be?”
 
Marianne Williamson
 

Why A “Be Like Bill” Meme Infuriates Me

Why A “Be Like Bill” Meme Infuriates Me

So the past few weeks I’m sure you’ve seen the “Be Like Bill” memes floating around Facebook. They’re designed to be amusing, passive aggressively poking fun at some of the more annoying social media practices that individuals continually partake in. Initially, there was just a couple Bill images – often getting reposted several times.

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Now, users can get their own “Be Like___” by simply entering their name and gender into a online form. Within a click of a button, they have their own meme with the frowned upon social norm tagged along with it. Although designed to give some sort of advice to the people unaware of their less-likened practices, the latest round of memes have become more aggressive, less passive. Which breaks down to this: an excuse to share memes that simply makes fun of others.
This particular “Be Like___” came across my news feed this morning:

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For obvious reasons, this offends me. But to think about how many other people will see this who draw on their eyebrows because they’ve been taken by a wide rage of health conditions absolutely infuriates me. This latest round of memes have gone beyond social media habits, attacking someone’s looks for their own amusement. Granted, the person who shared this had no intentions of ever hurting anyone, it’s a pretty shallow image. Attacking aesthetics is always  the low of the low, and it’s pretty clear these websites are running out of content.

This isn’t the first meme that’s bashed women and their eyebrows. This one is from last year, but still gets kicked around every now and again- offending most, if not every, Alopecian that sees it.

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Please note: there are no eyebrows on the emoji…

I’m not sure why making fun of women’s eyebrows has become popular, but it needs to end. Like, yesterday. Come to think about it, I take back my previous statement- I know exactly why there’s a recent fascination with women’s eyebrows. In early 2014, eyebrows became one thing: On Fleek. Which basically meant they were on point, looking good, and shaped beautifully. Women lusted after thicker, darker and more shapely eyebrows. No longer was the over-tweezed and thin eyebrow considered attractive anymore.
(See: Cara Delevingne, Kardashians or anyone else on Buzzfeed’s list of best celebrity brows.)

Side Note: Yes, this list exists. No, it wasn’t remotely difficult to find. Are you surprised?

Since the eyebrow craze of 2014 has hit, women have been tattooing, coloring in or adding to their natural eyebrow look. Which has been great news for Alopecians- the line of eyebrow products that has come out of this craze has been wonderful! Youtube tutorials and demos means there is finally some online resources for those that struggle with drawing their eyebrows on every day.
& When struggle became real for so many others, such as myself, not having eyebrows at all is okay too!

So when I see a meme, telling others how to behave in manner that they cannot help due to a health condition, naturally I lose my cool. I get it- they were funny at first. Everyone knows someone that has annoying social media habits (and if you don’t know anyone, you might be that someone).
But, can we PLEASE leave eyebrows out of this? They have one place and one place only: above one’s eyes.

 

Thanks.

 

Things Not to Say to an Alopecian

Things Not to Say to an Alopecian

Had a pretty fun time making this video- some really interesting responses but overall, hopefully tackled some of the more frustrating things that happen to people with alopecia.

I really do hope that these videos help other people in the long run- to inspire others to make their own videos, or pursue their dreams, whatever that may be.

For me, I’m not certain I know what’s in store for me. Every month it seems like I have a new opportunity, it’s the figuring out which one is right for me part that’s tricky!

10 Facts About Me

Good Morning Beautiful People,

Earlier this week, I felt froggy and decided to get out the old camera and record another YouTube video. After I began editing, I realized I was fairly out of practice because the audio is ever so slightly off for the whole video. And rather than go back and fix each individual clip, I just decided to get the video posted instead- so bear with me on it! Initially when I recorded some last year, I had full intentions of keeping up with them on a regular basis. Instead, life got in the way (yet again!) and I didn’t post for about a year.

This time, as part of my early new year’s resolution, I promise to follow up on my projects. I have a terrible habit of doing something and never completing it. So I plan to fix that, and go after all my projects/passions in 2016.

This video is based loosely off of some others I’ve seen on YouTube, as a sort of introduction of who I am. To give you guys (viewers) some indication of why I’m quirky, what I love and other odds and ends about me. I hope you take the time to watch and enjoy, please feel free to share.

(#10 fact is probably my favorite as it speaks to my new year’s resolution as well. I want to inspire other people. Plain and simple!)

Anyways, here it is! 10FactsShot.jpg

https://youtu.be/keGJx9NKws0